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Sunday, October 22, 2017

Book Review by author Jo Manning of Third Edition of How to Negotiate Like a Pro,



Here is a review of the Third Edition of How to Negotiate Like a Pro by Author Jo Manning. 


Jo Manning is the author of two Regency romances, "The Reluctant Guardian" and "Seducing Mr. Heywood" (a "Booklist " Ten Best Romances of the Year selection)  and my favorite, the non-fiction "My Lady Scandalous, The Amazing Life of Grace Dal." Jo was also the founder and director of the Reader's Digest General Books Library for over twenty years. 


Disclaimer: Jo and I became friends when we attended South Florida Writers Association events. 

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on October 20, 2017
Format: Paperback

Mary Greenwood's books (which include HOW TO MEDIATE LIKE A PRO and HOW TO INTERVIEW LIKE A PRO) are written in an approachable, succinct, reader-friendly, no-nonsense manner. These are do-able guides to achieving one’s goals, to strategizing and winning in a variety of situations. The rules can be applied successfully in difficult work-related situations (pay disputes, labor contracts, how to close a deal, negotiating the highest possible salary) as well as in everyday hassles (hotels that don’t honor reservations, interacting with unethical individuals) and in tricky or interpersonal relations (dealing with one’s spouse or ex-spouse, haggling on eBay). Negotiation strategies are key, and Greenwood is very clear as to how strategizing works to one’s ultimate benefit. She is the “pro” who will guide you to becoming a pro. Her subtitle is How To Resolve Anything, Anytime, Anywhere, and she lives up to it.

The exciting addition to this third edition is Chapter 7, How To Resolve Disputes With Difficult People…. Why did she come back and include this section in the book? She says it best:

…I was getting a lot of questions and comments at book signing and festivals about negotiating
with difficult people, specifically liars, narcissists and bullies and negotiators who were
unreasonable, unpredictable and unprepared. I decided to devote a full chapter to this topic and
outline techniques for various types of difficult people. Whether the other side is crazy or just
temperamental, it is still possible to get a settlement although it may take a lot longer.

And if there was ever a time for such a timely hunk of advice, it surely is now, beginning with the advice not to “let the other side’s behavior get under your skin”.

Be totally focused so that the other side’s behavior does not get “under your skin” or that the other side does not get “into your head”. The best way to respond to someone who says something totally absurd or ridiculous is to ignore it…

In her section on dealing with narcissists – and, again, how timely is that, these days? – she writes, “The key to negotiating with narcissists is that the negotiation is all about the narcissists.” She goes on, “They lack empathy and don’t care about you or your point of view.” Then, “It seems counter-intuitive, but if the other side is a narcissist, this can actually be an advantage for you.” Why? Because, she continues, “The narcissist wants to win, so if you can make the narcissist a winner, you are halfway there. You have to frame your issues so that the other side sees it as a win not loss.” The end result? “As long as he gets a win and he looks good, the subject matter itself is not as important. It is a classic case of form over substance.”

Greenwood’s twelve tips for dealing with a narcissist are spot-on. I especially like #2: “Leave your ego at the door.” As she writes: “Your intent is to make the other side look good. That may mean that you may have to look bad. It is really like acting. Your role is to make the other side look good no matter what transpires.”

Number 5 is pretty good advice, too: “Never interrupt a narcissist.” She notes, “It is always rude to interrupt anyone but interrupting a narcissist can be very offensive to the narcissist. However, don’t be offended if a narcissist interrupts you because narcissists think that what they have to say is more important than what you have to say.”

About pathological liars, she writes: #1 Tell the truth… ending with #7, Get everything in writing. In Tip #6, she advises “taking copious notes”!

And discussing bullies….who often display the traits of narcissists and liars…. Greenwood introduces this section with:

We have all seen a bully in the school yard, but lately bullies have been in the workplace and politics. When I think of a bully, these are some of the words that come to mind: control, bluster,
threatening, aggressive, hostile, intimidating, accusatory, annoying, harassing, insulting,
discriminatory, impatient, and taunting. Physically a bully tries to be intimidating by shaking his
fist or raising his voice. In some ways, the bully is a one-trick pony. Being a bully is the trick and
there isn’t much else. When she doesn’t get her way, she plays the bully role and tries to
intimidate the other side.

The last group of difficult people Greenwood discusses are those who are unethical. Here she is extremely clear that the meeting must be recorded and that a third party should accompany you. She further says that you must be “willing to walk away”, as “Compromising your ethics is not a good reason to stay in a negotiation.”

I want to end the review of this brilliant and succinct book with what served as her inspiration for writing this particular guide:

I wrote the original book as a result of my experience as a union negotiator. I had an Aha! moment
when I realized that the rules of negotiation for union contracts are the same as negotiating
anything in life, such as negotiation with your boss, your spouse, your bank, your siblings, and
buying a car.

These tips are useful to everyone, at every stage of our lives, and you will be very glad you bought this book, especially in these often trying times, and you will thank Mary Greenwood each time you use it for writing it.


Mary Greenwood, Negotiator, Mediator, Attorney and Author of Third Edition of How To Negotiate Like A Pro: How to Resolve Anything, Anytime, Anywhere, Winner of nine book awards, How to Mediate Like a Pro, Winner of 12 book awards, and How to Interview Like a Pro, Winner of 12 book awards. Email: Mgreen464@aol.com and visit WWW.MaryGreenwood.org

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

How to Negotiate With a Narcissist Tip #2

 Tip #2 Never Interrupt a Narcissist.

Never interrupt a narcissist. It is always rude to interrupt anyone but interrupting a narcissist can be very offensive to the narcissist. However, don't be offended if a narcissist interrupts you because narcissists think that what they have to say is more important than what you have to say. This can be very frustrating when you are not able to get a word in edgewise, but be patient.

From Third Edition of How to Negotiate Like a Pro, How to Resolve Anything, Anytime, Anywhere, published September 2017. Available Amazon, Barnes&Noble, Google Play, Nook and bookstores.

Mary Greenwood, Mediator, Attorney and Author of Third Edition of How To Negotiate Like A Pro: How to Resolve Anything, Anytime Anywhere. Winner of nine book awards: Best How To Book, DIY; Festival Runner Up, New York Book Festival; E-Book and Self-Help Category Finalist ForeWord Magazine Book of the Year Awards; Finalist, Best National Book Awards, Self-Help Category; Honorable Mention, London Book Festival; How To Mediate Like A Pro: 42 Rules for Mediating Disputes, Winner of 12 book awards and How to Interview Like a Pro, winner of twelve book awards: Visit www.marygreenwood.org

Sunday, October 8, 2017

How to Negotiate With a Narcissist Tip #1


How to Negotiate with a Narcissist Tip #1

#1. Leave Your Ego at the Door.

Your intent is to make the other side look good. That may mean that you may have to look bad. It is really like acting. Your role is to make the other side look good no matter what transpires. 

Be totally focused so that the other side's bad behavior does not get "under your skin," or that the other side does not get "into your head." Do not let your ego or emotions interfere with resolving your dispute with a narcissist.


From Mary Greenwood's , Third Edition of How To Negotiate Like A Pro: How to Resolve Anything, Anytime, Anywhere. Winner of nine book awards, Available at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Nook, Google, and bookstores.  

www.marygreenwood.org

Thursday, October 5, 2017


Mary Greenwood's Third Edition of How to Negotiate Like a Pro, How to Resolve Anything, Anytime, Anywhere Has Just Been Published


Mary Greenwood's Third Edition of How to Negotiate Like a Pro, How to Resolve Anything, Anytime, Anywhere Has Just Been PublishedThe Third Edition of How to Negotiate Like a Pro was published in September, 2017. Greenwood has added a new chapter on How to Negotiate with Difficult People, including pathological liars, narcissists and bullies. How to Negotiate Like a Pro gives the reader the tools to resolve any kind of dispute and reveals the preparations, strategies and tactics needed to close any deal.

Greenwood, attorney, HR Director and Union Negotiator says, "Everyone is involved in conflicts and disputes." A short list of some of the topics covered include 1) How to close the deal, 2) How to contend with a liar, 3) How to get the highest salary possible. Greenwood includes the ten questions to get the best deal and has created scripts for each of her 41 rules to walk readers through each stage of the negotiation.

How to Negotiate Like a Pro has won nine book awards. How to Mediate Like a Pro, has won 12 book awards and How to Interview Like a Pro has won 12 book awards.






Mary Greenwood, Mediator, Attorney and Author of Third Edition, How To Negotiate Like A Pro:  Winner of nine book awards Best How To Book, DIY Festival Runner Up, New York Book Festival, E-Book and Self-Help Category Finalist ForeWord Magazine Book of the Year Awards Finalist, Best National Book Awards, Self-Help Category Honorable Mention, London Book Festival How To Mediate Like A Pro: 42 Rules for Mediating Disputes Winner of five book awards Best National Book AWard, Law Category Best E-Book, New York Book Festival Best How To Book, Beach Book Festival Best E-Book, Indie Excellence Awards Spirit AWard, South Florida Writers Association Email: mgreen464@aol.com,  www.marygreenwood.org