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Tuesday, April 10, 2018

Thursday May 3, 2018 at 11:00 Negotiation Workshop and Book Signing with Award-Winning Author Mary Greenwood

Negotiation Workshop and Book Signing 


Thursday May 3, 2018 from 11:00 to 12:00


Anastasia Island Branch Library 


124 Sea Grove Main Street, St. Augustine Beach


NEGOTIATION WORKSHOP: HOW TO RESOLVE ANYTHING, ANYTIME, ANYWHERE By
 


Mary Greenwood, Negotiator, Arbitrator, Attorney, Mediator, and HR Director, and


Award-Winning Author of How to Negotiate Like a Pro, How to Interview Like a Pro and How to Mediate Like a Pro, Winner of 34 book awards.


You will learn:


----How to get the best salary and not leave money on the table.

___How to close the deal when you reach an impasse. 

----How to ask the ten questions to get the best deal.

----What makes a good negotiator.

___What the four words are that everyone wants to hear in a negotiation. 

Mary Greenwood has a BA, and MA in English, a JD in Law, and an LLM in Labor Law. Greenwood's books are used in many college Negotiations and Conflict Resolution classes. 

Come and have some fun and Learn How to Negotiate Like a Pro.


                     The third edition just published






Book Signing at Anastasia Island Branch Library with Mary Greenwood, Diane Macaby, Sally Constain and Dr. Edward Mickolus



Author Book Signing, Anastasia Island Branch Library


124 Sea Grove Main Street, St. Augustine Beach


Saturday April 14, 2018 from 1:00 to 3:00 PM


Four local Authors will talk about their books and do book signings. They will talk about what they have published, the publishing process and what compelled them to write their books. Expect the unexpected.



Mary Greenwood, Former Attorney, Mediator and HR Director; Author How to Interview Like a Pro, How to Mediate Like a Pro and How to Negotiate Like a Pro. 


Diane Machaby, Former Nonprofit Director; Author, When God Showed Up


Sally Constain, Former Teacher and Librarian; Author, The Keys to Fanny and Sometimes I wonder, a poetry chapbook.


Dr. Edward Micholus, former CIA Officer; Author of 34 books on terrorism, intelligence, humor, education, biography, and inspiration. 



Come join us for an afternoon for readers and writers. 





Sunday, March 4, 2018

Mary Greenwood Book Signing at AWP Tampa Convention Center, Thursday March 8, 2018, at 2:00 PM

Mary Greenwood Book Signing


Anyone else going to the AWP (Association of Writing Professionals) Conference in Tampa this week (March 7-10, 2018)?

I will be signing my recently-published book, the Third Edition of How to Negotiate Like a Pro, How to Resolve Anything, Anytime, Anywhere.

Where: Booth T1611 sponsored by the IWWG (International Women Writers Guild)  at the Tampa Convention Center at 333 S. Franklin St.

When: Thursday, March 8 at 2:00 to 3:00 PM

Who: Mary Greenwood has been an Attorney, Human Resources Director, Arbitrator, Law Professor, Union Negotiator, Mother and Grandmother, Mediator, Ebay Queen, English teacher and award-winning author (34 book awards).

What: Greenwood's vast experience has prepared her to write How to Negotiate Like a Pro, How to Interview Like a Pro and How to Mediate Like a Pro.

Why: After you have read Mary Greenwood's books, you will be negotiating, mediating or interviewing like a pro.

For more information, visit www.MaryGreenwood.org or email at Mgreen464@aol.com



Monday, February 12, 2018

BOOK REVIEW in St Augustine Record for Third Edition of How to Negotiate Like a Pro, by Mary Greenwood

Writer's Block, St. Augustine Record, Sunday February 11, 2018


How-to Book, How to Negotiate Like a Pro, Offers Practical Advice for Resolving Anything, Anytime Anywhere


by Robert Gold, Author of Dead to Rights and Cut of the Cross


What a useful publication! Although initially written for business  negotiations, How to Negotiate Like a Pro, How to Resolve Anything, Anytime, Anywhere, now in its third edition, includes negotiations with spouses (both former and present), siblings banks, restaurants, hotels, credit card companies, eBay buyers and sellers and even difficult people. 


You know those all too many bullies, liars and narcissists we seem inevitably to encounter these days wherever we go? Mary Greenwood has a special chapter (No. 7) for those people. That chapter was added to the third edition because she noticed the increased amount of "anger and resentment" in our society since the last edition was published five years ago. 


How to Negotiate Like a Pro has a total of 15 chapters and 41 rules to follow for success as a negotiator. Although I sincerely found every one of the chapters (and most of the rules) to be pragmatic and reasonable, some stood out as especially useful. The third chapter, Negotiation Strategies, and chapter 11, How to Negotiate and Get Good Customer Service, are among my favorites. 


Then there is the funny chapter 4, Extreme Tactics, which includes such rules as "walk away," "create a diversion" and tell them to "take it or leave it." Those rules are extreme, but most of us, at one time or other, have wanted to follow those same directions in disputes. 


Rule No. 26 is one we should all study and, if possible, memorize for future use in negotiations or games, such as chess, Monopoly, and poker. It is entitled "Watch the other side's body language" and offers the following good advice, which in some instances I have paraphrased. Poker players speak of watching the other side's body language as looking for "tells," body movement that tells (reveals to them) the strength of the opposing players' cars.


1. Avoiding eye contact may be a sign of lying.
2. Temper tantrums may be effective as a distraction.
3. Placing a hand on one's face may be a sign of frustration.
4. Crossing one's arms or legs may incite resistance to your proposal (You will definitely see resistance if you are playing Monopoly and offer to trade another player Baltic Avenue for Boardwalk.)
5. Clenching one's jaw may indicate anxiety or stress.
6. Standing/sitting straight with good posture may suggest confidence.
7. A raised eyebrow may show surprise.


The conclusion of How to Negotiate Like a Pro provides an excellent summary of the 41 rules, which when put all together appear to be essential to any negotiation we might experience in our lives. Recognizing their significance and utility, the author includes them for the readers' easy access. Greenwood herself still reads them over before her professional work as an arbitrator and mediator. 


Appendix B, Traits of a Good Negotiator, at the end of the book is also well worth reading and remembering. In the appendix, the author lists 20 preferred behavioral traits that we as well as negotiators should possess. They are the traits that will improve all of our daily human interactions. 

How to Negotiate Like a Pro is a useful how-to book that offers much more than negotiation skills to the reader.


Q and A With Author Mary Greenwood


1. What inspired you to write this book?

I wrote the first edition of How to Negotiate Like a Pro as a result of my experience negotiating union contracts. I have more than 25 years experience as a lawyer, negotiator, editor, arbitrator, law school professor and human resources director. I had an aha! moment when I realized that the rules of negotiating union contracts are the same as negotiating everything else in life, such as negotiating with your boss, your spouse, your bank or your children and when buying a car. I wrote the third edition to add a chapter on negotiating with difficult people including pathological liars, narcissists, and bullies. I also have a new chapter on How to Apologize Like a Pro, with some examples of poor apologies and how they can be revised to be meaningful and heartfelt. I have noticed over the last few years that civility of often lacking and many negotiators are unprepared, unreasonable and unpredictable. I have sense a lot of anger and divisiveness in the public discourse. My theory is that you can negotiate anything with anyone, but with some people, it may take a lot longer. Of course, both sides have to be willing. 

2. What type of research was involved?


The book is based solely on my own experience and anecdotes. I purposely have not read any books on negotiations or mediation since deciding to write books on these topics. 


3. How would you describe your writing process?

I start with an outline and then start writing Each book percolates in my head for awhile, but when I start writing, I just keep going. I usually have a few false starts and may not use a lot of what I have written, or save it for another book. I spend a lot of time editing and proofreading.


4. What do you hope readers get out of the book?

I hope readers will have the confidence to try to get the best deal, whether asking their boss for a salary increase or deciding where to go to dinner with their spouse. I have scripts after each rule that are a guide to practice what you are going to say before starting any topic in the negotiation. 


5. Who is your favorite author?

I have read all of Herman Melville and James Joyce. For fun, I read all of John Grisham's books as they are published. 

Visit www.MaryGreenwood.org, Author of How to Negotiate Like a Pro, Winner of 9 book awards; How to Interview Like a Pro, Winner of 12 book awards; and How to Mediate Like a Pro, Winner of 12 book awards.


Saturday, January 27, 2018

My Dad's Favorite Sayings: Jackisms

After my Dad died, my sister Sara and I made a list of his sayings. It was therapeutic to remember his favorite sayings, which we called Jackisms.  He was the most optimistic person I ever knew and his sayings reflect that. He also loved strange and interesting words. We miss you.
JACK GREENWOOD’s Jackisms 1915-2009
A Gentleman and A Scholar

1. If you stick with me, you will be wearing diamonds.
2. Keep your snorkel up
3. Keep your chin up
4. Better than a sharp stick in the eye
5. Oppydildock
6. Bellyup (like a fish)
7. Don't take any wooden nickels
8. Let it roll off your back.
9. Roll with the punches.
10. As I live and breathe.
11. You are a sight for sore eyes.
12. Go get 'em tiger.
13. Connecticut is God's country
14. Connecticut is the banana belt of New England
15. The head gink.
16. Never get into a pissing contest with a skunk.
17. Put your best foot forward.
18. Always dress your best.
19. Go pound sand
20. Knock them dead
21. You can always tell a Greenwood, but you can't tell him much.(printed on pens at 90th birthday party)
22. What have you done for your country today?
23. Hold the fort.
24. Rigamarole
25. discombobulated
26. Don't forget your mittens. (from Shaggy Dog movie and when my sister, Marnie rented the porch to live)
27. Good on you.
28. Everyone is a critic
29. Give me high test (coffee)
30. That will grow hair on your chest
31. That will stick to your ribs
32. That is good for what ails you.
33. Have a hot toddy.
34. Pipe down
35. Hold the phone (stop)
36. Hold your horses
37. He's a peach of a guy
38. Trust in the lord
39. You don’t know how to eat.

Friday, January 26, 2018

Be Careful What You Call an Older Applicant or Employee by Mary Greenwood


by Mary Greenwood, Author of How to Interview Like a Pro, 43 Rules For Getting Your Next Job. Winner of 12 Book Awards. www.marygreenwood.org


Calling an older applicant a derogatory name can be age discrimination and grounds for a complaint or lawsuit.

The following is a list, by alphabetical order, of some names not to call your employees or applicants. It does not matter if there is no malicious intent or the comments were meant as a joke or term of endearment. The fact that they are said can be enough to show Age Discrimination.

Before you meet with an applicant, look at  this list so that you are sure that you remember not to use any of these terms.

Aged, ancient, antediluvian, antiquated, antique, and archaic.

Bat, battle-axe, been-around-the block, and broken-down.

Can't teach an old dog new tricks, cautious, creaky, and crone.

Dear, debilitated, declining, decrepit, difficult to train, dinosaur, and duffer.

Elder, elder statesman, emeritus, enfeebled, and elderly.

Fart, feeble, fossil, and fusty.

Geriatric, getting on, goat, golden-ager, grandma, grandpa. grey, grey-haired, and grizzled.

Has-been, honey, and hoary.

Impaired, inactive, and infirm.

Long-in-tooth, lots-of-mileage.

Mature and Methuselah.

Not a spring chicken, not creative, and not relevant.

Obsolete, old, olden, old bag, old duffer, old-fangled, old-fashioned, old goat, old guard, old hat, outworn, oldie, old man, old school, old-timer, old woman, on last leg, out-dated, over-the-hill, and over-qualified.

Passe, past his/her prime, prehistoric, primeval, primordial, and prune,

Relic, retired, resistant to change, and rusty.

Seasoned, senile, senior, shot, and slow.

Technologically challenged, time-worn and tired.

Useless.

Venerable

Worse for Wear.

You might say that you would never use any of these terms in the workplace and perhaps that is true. However, employers spend millions of dollars each year resolving age discrimination cases.

Some of these terms may sound innocuous enough, like grandma, grandpa, or even elder. If these innocent-sounding words are used to tease older employees or applicants and make them feel uncomfortable, that can be part of an age discrimination claim, especially if the younger employees are treated differently from the older employees.
Some of these terms may be stereotypes for older applicants, such as, can't teach a dog new tricks, resistant to change, cautious, technologically challenged and difficult to train. A stereotype is a fixed, generalized view of a group that is usually negative and not based on fact. The reality is that each person is different. A younger person can be technologically challenged and an older person may be a whiz at computers so the stereotypes are detrimental in the workplace.
While you may not hear jokes about race or gender much these days, somehow it is okay to tell a joke about an old geezer. That is changing as older applicants and employees know their rights.

Can you think of any other terms or words to add?

Five Rules for Women Negotiators by Mary Greenwood


Five Rules For Women Negotiators (They apply to men, too.)

Can women negotiate as well as men? There are some stereotypes that women cannot negotiate as well as men—that women are not aggressive enough, that they take things too personally, or that they are too emotional. Others may think women may have an advantage in negotiations—that they are more patient, nurturing and methodical.

As a woman negotiator myself, I believe that negotiators, men or women, develops their own technique using their own strengths and weaknesses.  Overall the same rules apply to men as woman. However I have listed five rules that should particularly help women negotiators

1. It Does Not Hurt To Ask. If You Don’t Ask, You Don't Get.
It does not hurt to ask for something. This is especially true when dealing with a boss. Ask for that raise or promotion. Even if you don’t get it, your boss may admire your pluck and keep you in mind for future promotions. If there is something very important to you, it is good to get it out on the table. However do your research and be prepared to defend what it is you want and why you should get it. Don’t think that if you deserve a raise or promotion you will get it without initiating the conversation. In a job offer, try asking for more money and see what happens. If you have a bad customer experience at a hotel, ask for something like an upgrade or a free night. The results may surprise you. The worst that can happen is that the other party says “no.” 

2. Never Take No For An Answer
If you ask for something you really want and it is denied, don't take “no” for an answer. Try to find out why they are saying "no". Try to think of a different way to convince the other side to give you want you want. Go back to the drawing board and try to ask for what you want in a different way. Even a minor change, a compromise or rephrasing might make your offer more palatable. If this is an important issue, suggest a trade-off or package deal, so the other side might be motivated by getting something they want.

3. Look the Part
You are the one who should set the tone of the negotiation. When you come into the room for the first time, you should look the part. You should wear professional clothes. A woman should not wear a lot of distracting jewelry, especially if it jingles as you move. Carry the accessories of success such as a nice briefcase and notebook. Project the image that you want. You might want to try it in front of a mirror a few times. Practice introducing yourself. You want to give good eye contact and be a good listener. You want to seem knowledgeable about the issues or issues to be discussed. Think of the expression, "Fake it till you make it." Being a good negotiator is like being a good actor. Remember to play your part and look the part.

4. Never Let Them See You Sweat
It is important to check your emotions at the door before trying to negotiate anything. Emotions such as anger can make one lose control. If you are nervous, upset or unsure of yourself, you need to focus on what you hope to accomplish and tell yourself that nothing is going to stand in the way of your goal. If the other side sees weakness, it may try to bait you, so don't give him/her the satisfaction of knowing he/she has gotten to you. When I am upset with the other side, instead of getting angry, I actually speak more softly and more slowly to get my message across. Don't let your emotions interfere with the negotiation and never let them see you sweat!

5. Be Prepared
Like the Girls Scouts, you must be prepared. If women feel they are not always taken seriously, they may have to work extra hard to do their research and be prepared. Much preliminary work must be done. If you are not completely prepared, consider delaying the start of the negotiation. If you try to wing it, you will regret it. It is important to have all the answers in advance. You cannot be over-prepared.

If you follow these Rules, you should be able to Negotiate Like A Pro.



Mary Greenwood, Author How to Negotiate Like a Pro, How to Resolve Anything, Anytime, Anywhere.



Tuesday, January 9, 2018



Be Persistent; What I learned from my grandsons








I always learn something about negotiating after a visit with my grandsons, ages 2 and 4. One of my grandsons was very interested in obtaining a special car from the Cars and Cars 2 movies, which are his all-time favorites. He was very insistent that he wanted a special car and was unwaivering in his desire for his father to buy it for him. Watching him, I learned a lot about persistence and have incorporated some of these rules into my own negotiations.

Rules on Persistence

1. Don't give up.

2. Have a one-track mind.

3. Ignore whatever is being discussed and go back to that issue every chance you get.

4. Remind the other party frequently that this is all that you want.

5. Tell the other party that you are willing to have a tantrum if you don't get it.

6. Tell the other party that there is no substitute for the item you want.

7. Keep talking about this item no matter what is being discussed.

8. If you see it, pick it up in the store and don't put it back.

9. Make it clear that you are not leaving unless you get this item.

10. If there is discussion you don't want to hear, put your fingers in your ears and say "la-la-la-la-la."

11. Explain that you do not have an identical one at home; the one at home is green and this one is blue.

12. Explain that even if this is expensive, it will be worth the cost because you will not ask for another one.

13. Even if this won't fit in the suitcase, it can be shipped home.

14. Explain that this is the only thing that can make you happy.

15. If all else fails, say,"I know you are, but what I am I."

16. If offered another item, don't look at it.

17. Don't get distracted and focus on your goal.

18. Keep saying the same thing over and over no matter what.

19. Don't compromise. Why should you?

20. Point out that your birthday is coming up.

21. If all else fails, say, "The heart likes what the heart likes."

22. I might be running away from home.

23. I really need this.

24. In fact, I really need two of these so they can race each other.

25. I really need the carrying case, too.

26. Timmy's Mommy lets him have one.


I wrote this in 2011 and my grandsons are even better at negotiations now. I have watched these strategies in action and am going to try them in the adult world. Try these techniques in your own negotiations and see where it takes you. Maybe my grandsons can write my next book.


Mary Greenwood, Mediator, Attorney and Author of How To Negotiate LIke A Pro: Winner of 9 book awards ; How to Mediate Like a Pro, Winner of 12 book awards; and How too Interview Like a Pro, Winner of 13 book awards.                                www.MaryGreenwood.org

Monday, January 8, 2018

Mary Greenwood's award-winning books How to Mediate Like a Pro and How to Negotiate Like a Pro are Textbooks in College Classes



How to Mediate Like a Pro and How to Negotiate Like a Pro, How to Resolve Anything, Anytime, Anywhere  are textbooks at DePaul University, NSU, Malta U, UCF, UNT, UAA, and Brown




How to Mediate Like a Pro and How to Negotiate Like a Pro, How to Resolve Anything, Anytime, Anywhere have been used as textbooks in several College and University courses and workshops on Mediation, Negotiations and Alternate Dispute Resolution (ADR), including the University of Alaska at Anchorage, DePaul University, Nova Southeastern University, University of Malta, University of North Texas at Dallas, University of Central Florida and Brown University.


For more information contact www.MaryGreenwood.org; www.amazon.com/author/marygreenwood Mary's email: MGreen464@aol.com



First Book Reviews of Third Edition of How to Negotiate Like a Pro

**FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE**
First Reviews of Mary Greenwood’s Award-Winning How to Negotiate Like a Pro, Third Edition,with new chapter on Negotiating with Difficult People.  
St. Augustine Fl.. – Here is what the reviewers are saying about the third edition of  How to Negotiate Like a Pro, How to Resolve Anything, Anytime, Anywhere:
Susan Violante for Reader Views: “Overall I found the author did an awesome job presenting the reader the ballpark information needed to prepare, conduct and close a negotiation, regardless of whether at a professional or personal level. My favorite part of this book was the scripts, as they actually provided me with words as instruments to apply a negotiation strategy. …I was surprised on how confident I felt going into a more formal level when negotiating with a customer. “
Jo Manning, published author. “Mary Greenwood’s books, which include How to Mediate Like a Pro and How to Interview Like a Pro, are written in an approachable, succinct, reader-friendly, no-nonsense manner. Negotiation strategies are key, and Greenwood is very clear as to how strategizing works to one’s ultimate benefit. She is the ‘pro,’ who will guide you to becoming a pro. Her subtitle is How to Resolve Anything, Anytime Anywhere and she lives up to it. Greenwood’s tips on dealing with narcissists are spot on. —and again how timely.” How to Negotiate Like a Pro is “brilliant and succinct.” “These tips are useful to everyone, at every stage of our lives, and especially in these trying times, and you will thank Mary Greenwood each time you use it for writing it.”
Sally Helen Constain, published author. “I leave it on my night table as a reference book. Mary clarifies and guides the reader. This is an eye-opener and can be a life changer. The writing style is clear and conversational. Highly recommended for everyone, and also makes a great gift.”
Nadine Salazar. “There is so much new updated material in the Third Edition and an exceptional new chapter on How to Negotiate with Difficult People. This edition encompasses so much more, old and new. Congratulations on a well-written book.”
Earlier editions have won 9 book awards: Winner, Indie Excellence; Winner, DIY Book Festival; Finalist, National Best Book Awards; Finalist, ForeWord Book of the Year; Runner-up (2 categories,) New York Book Festival; Finalist Readers Favorite; Finalist, International Book Awards; Honorable Mention, London Book Festival.

About the Author
Mary Greenwood is an attorney, negotiator, mediator, arbitrator, human resources professional, and author of three award-winning books. Greenwood lives in St. Augustine, with her Boston terrier, Annabelle. For more info, see WWW.MaryGreenwood.org; www.Amazon.com/Author/MaryGreenwood; Mary’s email: Mgreen464@aol.com.