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Saturday, July 23, 2011

How to Answer: Why Do You Want To Leave Your Current Job? How to Interview Like a Pro





Why Do You Want To Leave Your Current Job and Why Do You Want to Work Here?


This is really a tricky question, a kind of chicken or egg question and can be difficult to answer. If the new job is truly a progression and can be viewed as a "step up" from your current position with more money or more duties, this is fairly easy to explain. If you have been at the current job for less than a year, you may have a job-hopping problem. If you are having problems at the old job, you may need to be very diplomatic about explaining those issues. When you tell your prospective employer why you want to work there, don't mention money or benefits.

Here are some examples:

1. I have been here over five years and I am doing the same things over and over. I need a challenge and I believe this job will provide that.

2. I love my current job, but this new job is an opportunity with more responsibilities. It is a natural progression of my experience and expertise.

3. This is really not about leaving my old job. I see this as a great opportunity for my career. In addition, my widowed mother is sick and lives nearby. (Never give your personal situation as the first reason.)

4. Your engineering department is the best in the state and I believe this is where I want to learn about my profession.

5. I have talked to friends that work here and they have always said this is the best place to work.

6. This is really my dream job. I have always wanted to work for your company after I got some experience elsewhere.

7. I like the job. I like the location. I like the people.

If you follow these, tips, you will be interviewing like a pro.



Mary Greenwood, Human Resources Director, Mediator, Attorney and Author of How to Interview Like a Pro, winner of nine book awards; How To Negotiate LIke A Pro: 41 Rules for Resolving Disputes, Winner of six book awards; How To Mediate Like A Pro: 42 Rules for Mediating Disputes, Winner of twelve book awards.
Email: howtointerview@aol.com
www.marygreenwood.org

How to Interview Like a Pro Author at Decatur Book Festival September 3-4










Mary Greenwood will be signing her books on September 3, 2011 at 3:00 at the Decatur Book Festival in the Emerging Authors Tent. Her books, How to Interview Like a Pro, How to Mediate Like a Pro and How to Interview Like a Pro will be on exhibit all day on September 3 and 4, 2011.


About AJC DBF

The Largest Independent Book Festival in the Nation
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution Decatur Book Festival presented by DeKalb Medical is an annual, free book festival that takes place over Labor Day weekend in Decatur, Georgia at several venues located in and around the downtown Decatur Square. Conceived in 2005 and launched in 2006, the festival brings more than 300 authors to Decatur for the holiday weekend. The authors give readings, talks, and panel discussions. The event is free and open to the public.

Authors include Pulitzer Prize winning and best-selling authors of fiction in many genres and nonfiction on diverse topics. The authors come to Decatur from across the country and international points as well.


Directions
From the MARTA rail line:
Go to Decatur Station (E–6). Take east exit for Church Street and west exit for bandstand.

From I–285 Southbound:
(Stone Mountain, Snellville, Athens, Conyers) Take Stone Mountain Freeway (US 78) west (Exit 39A). About 1/2 mile after divided highway ends and becomes Scott Boulevard. Bear left onto Church Street. Continue on Church Street about two miles to downtown Decatur.

From I–285 Northbound:
(College Park, Fayetteville, Henry Co, Airport) Get off at Covington Highway (US 278) (Exit 43) and turn left. Continue through downtown Avondale Estates (where Covington Highway becomes Main Street) past the Avondale MARTA station. Turn right onto E. Trinity Place.

From I–85:
Get off at Clairmont Road Exit (91) and go south on Clairmont about 4 1/2 miles until it dead–ends at the Old Courthouse. Turn left onto E. Ponce de Leon Avenue, go one block and turn right onto Church Street.

From North (Chamblee, Toco Hills):
Take Clairmont Road south until it dead–ends at the Old Courthouse. Turn left onto Ponce de Leon Avenue, go one block and turn right onto Church Street.

From I–20 (South):
Take Candler Road (Exit 65) north about four miles. After crossing railroad tracks, the road bears to the left and becomes E. Trinity Place.

From East (Clarkston, Scottdale):
Take East Ponce de Leon Avenue west. Just past Avondale MARTA station, turn left onto Sycamore Street.

From West (Midtown, Virginia–Highland):
Take Ponce de Leon Avenue east to downtown Decatur. After passing Old Courthouse, turn right on Church Street.

From West (Downtown Atlanta):
Take DeKalb Avenue east to downtown Decatur (DeKalb Avenue becomes Howard in Decatur). Turn left on McDonough Street at Decatur High School.

Transportation and Parking
With the historic Decatur Square located directly on MARTA’s East–West transit line, transportation to the book festival couldn’t be easier! Go to www.itsmarta.com to plan your route to the festival.

If you decide to drive, parking is plentiful in decks, metered spaces, and paid private lots. Do not park in lots posted as ‘no parking.’ Your car will be booted or towed.




Mary Greenwood, Mediator, Attorney and Author of How to Interview Like a Pro, Winner of eight book awards, How To Negotiate LIke A Pro: 41 Rules for Resolving Disputes, Winner of six book awards Best How To Book, DIY FestivalRunner Up, New York Book Festival, E-Book and Self-Help Category Finalist ForeWord Magazine Book of the Year Awards Finalist, Best National Book Awards, Self-Help Category Honorable Mention, London Book FestivalHow To Mediate Like A Pro: 42 Rules for Mediating Disputes Winner of five book awardsBest National Book AWard, Law CategoryBest E-Book, New York Book FestivalBest How To Book, Beach Book FestivalBest E-Book, Indie Excellence AwardsSpirit AWard, South Florida Writers Association
Email: howtointerview@aol.com website: www.marygreenwood.org

Friday, July 8, 2011

Be Persistent; What I learned from my grandson








I always learn something about negotiating after a visit with my grandsons, ages 2 and 4. One of my grandsons was very interested in obtaining a special car from the Cars and Cars 2 movies, which are his all-time favorites. He was very insistent that he wanted a special car and was unwaivering in his desire for his father to buy it for him. Watching him, I learned a lot about persistence and have incorporated some of these rules into my own negotiations.

Rules on Persistence
1. Don't give up.

2. Have a one-track mind.

3. Ignore whatever is being discussed and go back to that issue every chance you get.

4. Remind the other party frequently that this is all that you want.

5. Tell the other party that you are willing to have a tantrum if you don't get it.

6. Tell the other party that there is no substitute for the item you want.

7. Keep talking about this item no matter what is being discussed.

8. If you see it, pick it up in the store and don't put it back.

9. Make it clear that you are not leaving unless you get this item.

10. If there is discussion you don't want to hear, put your fingers in your ears and say "la-la-la-la-la."

11. Explain that you do not have an identical one at home; the one at home is green and this one is blue.

12. Explain that even if this is expensive, it will be worth the cost because you will not ask for another one.

13. Even if this won't fit in the suitcase, it can be shipped home.

14. Explain that this is the only thing that can make you happy.

15. If all else fails, say,"I know you are, but what I am I."

16. If offered another item, don't look at it.

17. Don't get distracted and focus on your goal.

18. Keep saying the same thing over and over no matter what.

19. Don't compromise. Why should you?

19. Point out that your birthday is coming up.

20. If all else fails, say, "The heart likes what the heart likes."

21. I might be running away from home.

22. I really need this.

23. In fact, I really need two of these so they can race each other.

24. I really need the carrying case, too.

25. Timmy's Mommy lets him have one.

I have watched these strategies in action and am going to try them in the adult world. Try these techniques in your own negotiations and see where it takes you.




Mary Greenwood, Mediator, Attorney and Author of How to Interview Like a Pro, winner of nine book awards; How To Negotiate Like A Pro: 41 Rules for Resolving Disputes, Winner of six book awards Best How To Book, DIY Festival Runner Up, New York Book Festival, E-Book and Self-Help Category Finalist ForeWord Magazine Book of the Year AwardsFinalist, Best National Book Awards, Self-Help CategoryHonorable Mention, London Book FestivalHow To Mediate Like A Pro: 42 Rules for Mediating DisputesWinner of five book awardsBest National Book Award, Law CategoryBest E-Book, New York Book FestivalBest How To Book, Beach Book Festival Best E-Book, Indie Excellence AwardsSpirit AWard, South Florida Writers Association Email: howtonegotiate@aol.com www.marygreenwood.org

Illegal Questions in a Job Interview: How to Interview Like a Pro























As an applicant, the most important thing you should know is that all questions should be job-related. If the question is not job-related and has to do with sex, race, national origin, or age, it is probably illegal. If an employer cannot ask a question directly, it cannot ask that same question indirectly, either.

Here are some illegal interview questions:

1.Illegal Questions About Race
A.Are you Asian?
An interviewer cannot ask a question about an applicant’s race as this is prohibited by Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. Asians and Pacific Islanders are one of the five groups recognized by the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC), which administers Title VII.

B.What race is your spouse?
Asking about a spouse or relative’s race is also prohibited by Title VII.

C.Are you an American Indian? What tribe?
Under Title VII, an interviewer cannot ask a question about race. American Indians and Alaska Natives are one of the five groups recognized by the EEOC.

D.Are you bi-racial?
Again this is prohibited by Title VII. After someone is hired, an employee can be asked to fill out an Equal Employment Opportunity (EEO) form, but this is prohibited in an interview.

2.Illegal Questions about National Origin
A.What kind of accent is that?
Trying to determine where someone is from by their accent is prohibited by Title VII. You cannot ask indirectly what you cannot ask directly. An interviewer may think he/she is just making conversation, but it is an improper question

B.Where were your grandparents born?
This question is never job-related and is prohibited by Title VII. An interviewer can only ask whether you can work in the US. It is a yes or no question. Anything else about national origin is inappropriate.

C.What is your native language?
Again this is illegal and is national origin discrimination. However, it is proper to ask an employee what languages he or she speaks and what his/her proficiency is in those languages.

Again this is prohibited. Even if the interviewer thinks he/she is getting to know the applicant, this is national origin discrimination.

3.Illegal Questions About Sex
A.What does your spouse think of you working at night or traveling?
There is no job-related reason to ask this. This goes back to a more patronizing time when an employer had stereotypes about working women and somehow wanted to get the spouse’s (usually husband’s) approval. An employer cannot even ask you if you have a spouse.

B.What is your spouse’s salary?
This is clearly not job-related. Companies in the past wanted to know what the husband’s salary was so it could offer the women applicant a lower salary. This is also a violation of the Equal Pay Act.

C.Are you pregnant?
This is not job-related and is specifically prohibited by Title VII and pregnancy is a protected classification under Title VII.

D.Do you have children or are you going to have children?
Any questions about children or daycare are prohibited by Title VII. There are some sexual stereotypes that women with children will have more absences than those without children. The only valid question that can be asked is whether you can work the hours of the job.

4.Illegal Questions About Age
A..How old are you?
This is not job-related and is prohibited by the Age Discrimination in Employment Act of 1967, which prohibits discrimination of anyone forty or over. There is generally no mandatory retirement now (there are exceptions for pilots and other safety sensitive positions), but an employer can ask age after an applicant is hired for retirement and health insurance purposes.

B. When were you born? When did you graduate from high school?
Again, you cannot ask indirectly what you cannot ask directly. This is not job-related and is age discrimination.

C. Don’t you think you are too old for this position?
Again this is age discrimination based on age stereotypes. If the job is a physical one, you can ask all applicants to demonstrate that they can do the job duties as long as the older applicants are not singled out.

D. Are you a grandparent?
Again the employer may think he/she is making conversation, but it can be perceived as age discrimination. Again there is no job-related reason to be asking this.

1.If you are asked one of these illegal questions, how do you respond?
The answer to this depends on how much you want the job. If you still want the job, you may want to give an answer that lets them know you know it is illegal.

Here are some examples:
A. I am sure you know that you cannot ask that question. However, I have nothing to hide. I have two children three and four, and they go to daycare.
B. Not that this is job-related under federal law. I do have two children. Their father takes them and I pick them up from daycare.
C. I know that this is an illegal question and I am going to refuse to answer it. It is not job-related so I assume this refusal will not be taken against me in the interview process.
D. If you are really mad and are no longer interested in the job, you could say something like this: “I know these are illegal questions and I am going to stop by the EEOC office on my home to file a complaint.

If you follow these guidelines, you will be interviewing like a pro.






Mary Greenwood, Mediator, Attorney and Author of How to Interview Like a Pro, Winner of nine book awards; How To Negotiate LIke A Pro: 41 Rules for Resolving Disputes, Winner of six book awards Best How To Book, DIY Festival Runner Up, New York Book Festival, E-Book and Self-Help CategoryFinalist ForeWord Magazine Book of the Year AwardsFinalist, Best National Book Awards, Self-Help CategoryHonorable Mention, London Book FestivalHow To Mediate Like A Pro: 42 Rules for Mediating DisputesWinner of five book awardsBest National Book AWard, Law Category Best E-Book, New York Book Festival, Best How To Book, Beach Book Festival Best E-Book, Indie Excellence AwardsSpirit AWard, South Florida Writers Association Email: howtointerview@aol.com www.marygreenwood.org

Sunday, July 3, 2011

Most Highlighted Passages on Kindle by Jane Austen and Suzanne Collins







Amazon Kindle has a new feature of keeping track of the "Most Highlighted Passages of All Time." Here is the latest, which includes Jane Austen in the first and fourth place and Suzanne Collins of the Hunger Games in second and third. There is also a daily listing.

Most Highlighted Passages of All Time

1. It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife.
Highlighted by 4743 Kindle users
Pride and Prejudiceby Jane Austen

2. It takes ten times as long to put yourself back together as it does to fall apart.”
Highlighted by 4390 Kindle users
Mockingjay (The Final Book of The Hunger Games)
by Suzanne Collins


3. Because sometimes things happen to people and they’re not equipped to deal with them.
Highlighted by 4001 Kindle users
Catching Fire (The Second Book of the Hunger Games)
by Suzanne Collins


4. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us."
Highlighted by 3965 Kindle users
Pride and Prejudice
by Jane Austen

5. Those three things—autonomy, complexity, and a connection between effort and reward—are, most people agree, the three qualities that work has to have if it is to be satisfying.
Highlighted by 3918 Kindle users
Outliers: The Story of Success
by Malcolm Gladwell




Mary Greenwood, Mediator, Attorney and Author ofHow To Negotiate LIke A Pro: 41 Rules for Resolving Disputes, Winner of six book awardsBest How To Book, DIY FestivalRunner Up, New York Book Festival, E-Book and Self-Help CategoryFinalist ForeWord Magazine Book of the Year AwardsFinalist, Best National Book Awards, Self-Help CategoryHonorable Mention, London Book FestivalHow To Mediate Like A Pro: 42 Rules for Mediating DisputesWinner of five book awardsBest National Book AWard, Law CategoryBest E-Book, New York Book FestivalBest How To Book, Beach Book FestivalBest E-Book, Indie Excellence AwardsSpirit AWard, South Florida Writers Association
Email: howtonegotiate@aol.com
www.marygreenwood.org

"Popular Highlights" feature on Kindle Amazon a good tool for Readers and Authors
















I just noticed a new feature on Amazon Kindle. The listing shows some of the sections highlighted by the readers. There is a pop-up that says " five other people highlighted this part of the book." The following are some of the Popular Highlights from How to Mediate Like a Pro. This is a very helpful feature for the author as well. It shows which sections resonate with the reader.


Popular Highlights


"If we are going to resolve this, we need to look to the future, not the past. You need to get beyond the hurt you are feeling and look at the impact. I know that this has been painful, but we need to discuss these issues."
Highlighted by 5 Kindle users

"What if the other party rejects this? How can you sweeten the deal?How can you close the deal? What if the other party rejects this? What is your backup plan?"
Highlighted by 4 Kindle users

"Let’s not get bogged down with all the details; let’s look for solutions. Dwelling in the past can be counterproductive. Let’s look at the present to see what can resolve this case."
Highlighted by 4 Kindle users

"How can we get beyond this blame game and move forward to a solution? Is it important to you that the case get settled? It is not really important as to who is right or who is wrong."
Highlighted by 4 Kindle users

"I am trying to understand what you really want. I think you are joking, right? Tell me what you really want."
Highlighted by 3 Kindle users

"A take it or leave it approach has no place in mediation. An all or nothing approach does not allow both parties to participate."
Highlighted by 3 Kindle users

"What is important is how to resolve the dispute so both parties can walk away somewhat satisfied."
Highlighted by 3 Kindle users

"I try to explain that fault is not the essence of the mediation. It is not a question of who is right or who is wrong but how to resolve the situation."
Highlighted by 3 Kindle users





Mary Greenwood, Mediator, Attorney and Author of How to Interview Like a Pro, Winner of nine book awards; How To Negotiate LIke A Pro: 41 Rules for Resolving Disputes, Winner of six book awards Best How To Book, DIY FestivalRunner Up, New York Book Festival, E-Book and Self-Help CategoryFinalist ForeWord Magazine Book of the Year AwardsFinalist, Best National Book Awards, Self-Help CategoryHonorable Mention, London Book FestivalHow To Mediate Like A Pro: 42 Rules for Mediating DisputesWinner of five book awardsBest National Book AWard, Law CategoryBest E-Book, New York Book FestivalBest How To Book, Beach Book FestivalBest E-Book, Indie Excellence AwardsSpirit AWard, South Florida Writers AssociationEmail: howtomediate@aol.com
www.marygreenwood.org